Boy, did I have my eyes opened at K’s hearing some two months later! I went fully expecting to hear that there was more to the story. Expecting that the court had some compelling evidence that I was completely unaware of that would show just cause for the children’s removal. What I heard instead was that there was even less evidence than I thought: the judge threw the case out, admonished the social worker involved in open court, and returned the children to their mother that day. From my courtroom observations, the situation was the result of a knee-jerk reaction from a burnt-out, jaded social worker who should have long ago recognized that she could no longer make objective decisions about an individual’s ability to parent.
K will never get that two months back with her baby and her six-year old son will never forget his two month in foster care.
I know that this is still finger pointing, just in a different direction. I only offer it in support of the notion that there are rough places on every facet of the foster care system. Thank you for your thoughtful piece, for considering the needs of the children first, and for highlighting that fact that not all parents who have children in the foster care system are heartless, apathetic or incompetent.
Sad story. It’s important we keep telling the stories of individual people until others understand the size of the problem. 12-14 million adult former foster children in our country. Their stories matter.
Please remember, no social worker makes a decision to remove a child, it is the supervisor, who sits in the office and rarely sees the children, who is making the decisions.
Having spent more than 20 years managing CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocate) programs and advocating for abused children, I find myself asking the same questions as the author. And my conclusion is: our children deserve better.
Thank you for a thoughtful article that should challenge the idea that we “save” abused and neglected children by placing them in foster care.
I believe every stakeholder, even those who aren’t often invited to the table, would agree that our children deserve better. Maybe that’s the place we begin?
I lived in 5 different foster homes, the first at age 9. My mom has paranoid schizophrenia and was self medicating with drugs and alcohol. I wish there was better training for foster parents so they could try and understand how foreign their world is to foster kids. I would compare it to being a foreign exchange student, but compound the culture and language barriers with the stressful unknown factor. Where is my mom, brother, sisters? Are they ok? When will I see them again? Is this my fault? How long will I be here?
Just when you start getting close to your new “siblings”, and sometimes even “parents” it’s time to move to your next foreign country.
To claim there are only 1% of foster kids in foster homes who are abused is ridiculous. What I witnessed and what foster siblings told me of their travels through the system would make me put that number closer to 40% at least! My brother was sexually abused in his foster home, I lived in a house where they kept all the food locked up and we were fed one meal a day. I lived in another one where I was put in charge 80% of the time…in charge of 5 or more kids, when I was 12. One of the kids chased me with a butcher knife before I locked myself in the bathroom for hours. The sexual abuse amongst the kids is horrifying. I witnessed a foster father sexually abusing one of the teen girls, my caseworker moved me but did nothing to the man, who still took in kids.
I have always wondered if it would be better to have group homes for kids with trained people in charge. But then reality steps in and I know there would never be enough funding to keep facilities well staffed and safe. So, who knows what the right answer is?! But, I do believe better training for those families who care and better screening for those who don’t would be a great way to start.
Angie, What you’re saying about your experience of abuse inside homes is what researchers found when they interviewed adults who’d been in care. Those numbers were far, far higher than what the government records of incidents show. I’m sorry you experienced the poor conditions you describe and hope you are doing well.
1% abuse is BS. Those of us that were in care know. I find kids talked to each other and not workers you barely saw. The truth is it takes less money for a functional group home than it does to run incarceration nation. Our priorities are funky. Good luck Angie.
Are there alternatives to the foster care vs. intensive home support options? Maybe its not either or, but a different blend? Elevating the standards for fostering and commiserate pay so that skill levels of foster parents were higher; entering the bio parent along with the child into foster care, i.e. day care? Creating family teams around child and parent with the foster parent as coach? Changes in the judicial system so that bio parents spent time learning parenting skills in intensive treatment centers with their child/ren instead of going to jail?
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